You have to believe you’re worthy of it.
This is particularly tricky for me because I have a challenging relationship with both belief and worthiness that makes feel like a robot that’s short-circuiting.
I don’t like to believe in things, I like to know they are true through my own experience. And my relationship to worthiness is a little like whack-a-mole — I think I have it under control and I’m feeling good and strong and then it pops up in another, totally unrecognizable way that totally fucks me.
It only ever seems to be in hindsight that I realize it’s my old friend in new clothes.
So to believe I’m worthy of something makes me want to melt into a puddle. How is that possible?
But truth is, we are all worthy of a life that makes our soul sing and our hearts flutter, and not only are we worthy of it, it’s our duty to create it. Because here’s the thing: no one else is going to do it for us, no one else cares if we live a life that inspires and feeds us. If we don’t believe we’re worthy of it, then we’ll live a sad and boring life then die and be eaten by our cats.
So if we don’t believe in ourselves, no one else will.
But to change our brains isn’t easy. It takes persistence and dedication, but it can be done.
And there’s an easy start to do this: Mantra.
Mantras can seem super new-age-white-woman-spiritual (no offense mum). But in reality, mantras are just a form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
So buy these beautiful Mala Beads, and every morning when you wake up, do one full round of the mala with the mantra below:
I am worthy of living a life I’ve always dreamed of. I deserve happiness, abundance and love.
Because you are.
Try this for a week and report back on this post if you see any changes in your life. My bet is you will.